How A Core Wound Sneaks up on you

Core wounds are deep emotional injuries that can cause us to feel isolated and ashamed. They are painful memories, experiences, and messages that have been stored in our subconscious, and they can have a devastating impact on our lives. Despite their profound influence, core wounds often go unrecognized by society. Some would argue, “You don’t know what I’ve been through.” this is a symptom of victimhood, and you are in a habit of sulking in your core wounds.

The term “core wound” was initially used in psychotherapy to refer to a traumatic experience that has left a lasting impression, and that can manifest in a variety of ways. Common core wounds include abandonment, betrayal, and loss. Core wounds are in everyone, but do we have healthy coping mechanisms? Do we want to be rich but can’t get there? These wounds can be caused by a traumatic event, such as the death of a loved one, an abusive relationship, or a physical illness. They can also be the result of childhood experience, such as neglect, criticism, or trauma. Recently it’s become more apparent that even seemingly small instances that cause pain repeatedly can inflict a core wound such as sibling rivalry. While it may appear normal, the repetition and emotion can result in a lifelong emotional wound.

Core wounds can manifest in a variety of ways, including depression, anxiety, self-sabotage, relationship issues, and difficulty finding and maintaining healthy boundaries. Unfortunately, society often ignores or refuses to recognize the presence of core wounds. We may be conditioned to believe that our feelings and emotions are not valid or important, or that we should “just get over it.” This can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, and isolation, as we struggle to make sense.

What are some things we can do to begin to thrive in life?

1. Acknowledge Your Wounds: The first step to healing your core wounds is to acknowledge that they exist. It can be difficult to face the pain of our past, but it’s important to recognize that these wounds exist and that we need to take steps to heal them. Every human on the planet has wounds. How do you deal with them? Do you try to control every situation around you? Do you hold the past against others? Do you jump into relationships head first?

2. Practice Self-Compassion: It’s important to be kind and gentle with yourself as you go through the healing process. Self-compassion allows us to acknowledge our feelings without judgment and to recognize that we are worthy of healing. RECOGNIZE, it is a habit to be hard on yourself. Learn to idenify when the habit is kicking in.

3. Seek Professional Help: If you’re dealing with core wounds, it’s important to seek professional help from a coach or counselor. A professional can help you identify the root causes of your wounds, process difficult emotions, and develop healthy coping skills. A coach can help you learn to identify when those wounds come up and how to navigate through it to establish healthier patterns.

4. Connect with Nature: Nature can provide a calming and healing influence. Take time to go for a walk in the park or a hike in the woods. Allow yourself to be present in the moment and to reconnect with the natural world. Personally, I like to squeeze hands and toes to get present. Notice how good it feels to regularly show up for yourself by getting present (this may take some time to recognize).

5. Connect with Others: Connecting with supportive friends and family can help you heal your core wounds. Spend time with people who care about you and who will listen. Environment will always in. If you are around negativity constantly, sometimes it’s best to remove yourself from the situation first to gain momentum on healing.